I don’t know if you’ve heard, but summer ‘19 has been deemed a “hot girl summer”, or at least that’s what the youth are saying. Initially, I thought I couldn’t participate in the fun because let’s face it, I’m too old (or at least I feel old) and my energy is too low to do “fun things”. My idea of fun nowadays is lying in my bed binging Netflix shows. I’m also boo’d up, so I’m not out here scamming dudes or being the 1-in-3 women who use a date for a free meal. (even tho I have before, muhahaha)
I thought that my hot girl summers were over and done with, but then I had an epiphany. I can make a “hot girl summer” whatever I want/need it to be. Being a “hot girl” is a state of mind and an attitude. That attitude then correlates to making boss moves. So, I’ve come up with three ways you can be a “hot girl” this summer :
1. Be Your Unapologetic Self – This world is designed for us to feel small and to conform and comply with European standards of beauty, success, and living. It’s stifling and restrictive. Black women feel the crush and strain of this confinement more than any other group of people. The pressure can be too great of a burden to bear. That’s why I’m a big fan of women like Amanda Seals, Cardi B, Angela Rye and many more, who stand firm in their individuality and feel uninhibited to express who they are without fear of being shunned or outcast. This liberation comes only through the act of true self-love. When you live your life free of other people’s opinions and approval, you flow through life’s challenges differently. You’re more confident and unbothered about how you should look and/or act. That means no matter how big your waistline is you wear your bikini without shame or insecurities.
2. Have Fun with Ya Girls – Spending time with other women is good for your soul. Sisterhood is important and it’s a gift that keeps on giving. Studies show that every woman should have a girls trip/getaway. (I don’t really know if that is true, but it sounds good.) Sometimes we get so caught up with maintaining the parts of our identity that are mother, wife/girlfriend, entrepreneur, etc., that we sometimes neglect to maintain our friendships. You should be investing and reinvesting in your friendships. I am an avid believer that you absolutely cannot make it through in this world without a good set of girlfriends to help you along your journey. Laughing, chillin’ and having fun with ya girls can be the best remedy for decompressing and relieving stress. Having a hot girl summer doesn’t mean doing hood rat or ratchet activities. Go to an outdoor concert or the beach or a rooftop happy hour with your girls. Do whatever is considered fun for y’all.
3. Secure the Bag – Securing the bag doesn’t necessarily mean getting to the money bag, but your “goal bag”. Just because it’s summer doesn’t mean we stop doing the work. We can relax and take time to decompress but never stop. We should always be actively creating and setting goals. Securing the bag is making sure you are focused and disciplined in order to achieve your goals. Minimize distractions and maximize the long summer days to help you accomplish your goals.
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