I have fluctuated in my weight for years. And for years I’ve tied my worth, beauty and desirability into the number on the scale. I’ve come a long way in my journey to loving my body. And even though I am at my heaviest weight my confidence has never been higher. But I am not gon front, the insecurities about my body are still there. What’s changed is how long I allow those negative thoughts to stay in my mind and the affirming truths I tell myself to stay in a positive mindset.
A couple of years ago I bought a crop top. I said I would wear it when I lost more weight. I never wore it. I got rid of it last fall. I wish I wore it instead of being ashamed of having a belly. Feeling ashamed of your body can keep you from enjoying life and having experiences. I definitely allowed it to push me to the background.
When I was an adolescent there weren’t many dark-skinned women in entertainment. Let alone full-figured, curvy, or other body types that weren’t skinny. I knew I didn’t fit a standard of beauty and I formed several insecurities. With celebrities like Danielle Brooks, Lizzo, and Serena Williams leading the pack on Black women and body positivity advertisers are doing a much better job at being inclusive of all body types and skin colors. Now young girls can see themselves in a way I never did. We need those validating images of beauty.
I am here to affirm that you are beautiful and gorgeous and there is not one inch of your body that you should be ashamed of. Every inch is perfectly designed. And it wasn’t designed for the approval of others but to carry out your divine purpose. So no matter your shape or size, wear the crop top. Wear the shortest shorts. You are the standard of beauty sis!